No one wants to feel as if they are constantly jumping through hoops having to prove their commitment to a relationship. Many partners put their significant other through various true love tests to make sure the person is serious about them. However, not everyone can stand the game playing and want out of the relationship.
So, how can people stop it with their insecurities? The one thing that has to be done is the person has to love who they are first. There is no way that they can trust and love someone until they know who they are. The tests that people put other individuals through will do nothing more than push them away.
People do not like to have to prove themselves. They want people, especially the ones who they care about to accept them for being them. It is difficult to get into a relationship, and every time you turn around someone wants you to profess your love for them.
There are many counselors and therapists who can work with couples who are going through these types of problems. These people help others to get to the root of why they feel that they are not being capable of love without having to send another person through hoops to prove themselves to them. People with insecurities should take time to find out what they are expecting and looking for in a relationship.
It is important then to take a step back and figure out exactly what they need. To do this sometimes people just need a little extra help from others around them. It does not matter the age or whether the person is a man or woman, putting people through complicated tests can come from just about anyone.
You tend to see both people worried about what the other person is doing. Some people just worry unnecessarily and this can put the relationship in limbo. So, what do you do if you are the person being put through these changes?
Most importantly let your significant other express their feelings to you. Make sure you are listening with an open ear and an open heart. Understand that they are afraid of losing you, or you not wanting them. It is not that they just want to make your life miserable. However, you have to let them know that is exactly what they are doing. Let them know that you are not going to put up with it, and that it could cost the relationship.
You have to be up front with those who put play games. If you do not be upfront the games will continue. Make sure to have some ground rules, and if they continue to do the things that you asked them not to do, then it just might be time to move on. However, everyone deserves a second chance. Some people might think what they are doing is harmless. So, it just might be up to you to let them know that you are definitely not the one for their everyday tests.
So, how can people stop it with their insecurities? The one thing that has to be done is the person has to love who they are first. There is no way that they can trust and love someone until they know who they are. The tests that people put other individuals through will do nothing more than push them away.
People do not like to have to prove themselves. They want people, especially the ones who they care about to accept them for being them. It is difficult to get into a relationship, and every time you turn around someone wants you to profess your love for them.
There are many counselors and therapists who can work with couples who are going through these types of problems. These people help others to get to the root of why they feel that they are not being capable of love without having to send another person through hoops to prove themselves to them. People with insecurities should take time to find out what they are expecting and looking for in a relationship.
It is important then to take a step back and figure out exactly what they need. To do this sometimes people just need a little extra help from others around them. It does not matter the age or whether the person is a man or woman, putting people through complicated tests can come from just about anyone.
You tend to see both people worried about what the other person is doing. Some people just worry unnecessarily and this can put the relationship in limbo. So, what do you do if you are the person being put through these changes?
Most importantly let your significant other express their feelings to you. Make sure you are listening with an open ear and an open heart. Understand that they are afraid of losing you, or you not wanting them. It is not that they just want to make your life miserable. However, you have to let them know that is exactly what they are doing. Let them know that you are not going to put up with it, and that it could cost the relationship.
You have to be up front with those who put play games. If you do not be upfront the games will continue. Make sure to have some ground rules, and if they continue to do the things that you asked them not to do, then it just might be time to move on. However, everyone deserves a second chance. Some people might think what they are doing is harmless. So, it just might be up to you to let them know that you are definitely not the one for their everyday tests.
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