If you find out that your wife has been unfaithful to you, a number of things might go through your mind, some of them probably related to revenge. Then again you might feel depressed, or angry, or all of these emotions at once, which is entirely possible.
There are constructive ways to deal with the anger you feel after being cheated on. Keep in mind that anger is often really "hurt" in disguise. The two emotions are very similar and often anger is a way to mask the hurt you harbor inside. So address the pain and you will also be addressing the anger.
When you have anger in your heart, you will find that it affects your relationships, from your friends, to your family, all the way to your co-workers. Eventually, your life will begin to fall apart, and you will start down a path that you never wanted to see in the first place.
1. Whether it's your best friend, a counselor, someone from a support group, your next door neighbor, or heck even your plumber, for goodness sake talk to someone and let that anger out. Men are not known to talk about their feelings, but in this case, releasing all those pent up anger and questions looming in your head through talking will not make you less of a man.
Talking to someone will help you clear your head and put things into perspective. They may give you advice but you don't need to take all of it. Take the advice that you think will help you and do it.
By talking to someone, you will be able to clear your head and put your issues into a perspective that you can understand. The people you talk to can give you advice, but that doesn't mean you need to follow all of it. If you listen, you will see the advice you need to take, and apply it to your life.
3. While you are navigating these rough waters it's also important to take care of yourself physically. Eating right and getting the proper exercise will release endorphines that combat depression, as well as elevate your self-esteem and confidence.
4. An act of infidelity is bound to do a number on your feelings of self worth, but it does NOT have to be the end. If the marital relationship matters to you - and to her - together you can move beyond the crisis and have a full and happy life together. However, it takes communication and a mutual commitment in order to do this.
3. Once you get over your anger, you can get to the bottom of things, for example figuring out what why she cheated on you. Rather than focusing on the fault, focus on the lessons you can take away from the situation.
Consider the circumstances. Was she feeling neglected, taken for granted? Was she working in a job that required lots of travel and lonely nights in a hotel room? What could or should be changed to continue with the relationship?
Whether with or without her, you now have a chance at a fresh start. Use the lessons you've learned from the past to build a meaningful and happy future.
There are constructive ways to deal with the anger you feel after being cheated on. Keep in mind that anger is often really "hurt" in disguise. The two emotions are very similar and often anger is a way to mask the hurt you harbor inside. So address the pain and you will also be addressing the anger.
When you have anger in your heart, you will find that it affects your relationships, from your friends, to your family, all the way to your co-workers. Eventually, your life will begin to fall apart, and you will start down a path that you never wanted to see in the first place.
1. Whether it's your best friend, a counselor, someone from a support group, your next door neighbor, or heck even your plumber, for goodness sake talk to someone and let that anger out. Men are not known to talk about their feelings, but in this case, releasing all those pent up anger and questions looming in your head through talking will not make you less of a man.
Talking to someone will help you clear your head and put things into perspective. They may give you advice but you don't need to take all of it. Take the advice that you think will help you and do it.
By talking to someone, you will be able to clear your head and put your issues into a perspective that you can understand. The people you talk to can give you advice, but that doesn't mean you need to follow all of it. If you listen, you will see the advice you need to take, and apply it to your life.
3. While you are navigating these rough waters it's also important to take care of yourself physically. Eating right and getting the proper exercise will release endorphines that combat depression, as well as elevate your self-esteem and confidence.
4. An act of infidelity is bound to do a number on your feelings of self worth, but it does NOT have to be the end. If the marital relationship matters to you - and to her - together you can move beyond the crisis and have a full and happy life together. However, it takes communication and a mutual commitment in order to do this.
3. Once you get over your anger, you can get to the bottom of things, for example figuring out what why she cheated on you. Rather than focusing on the fault, focus on the lessons you can take away from the situation.
Consider the circumstances. Was she feeling neglected, taken for granted? Was she working in a job that required lots of travel and lonely nights in a hotel room? What could or should be changed to continue with the relationship?
Whether with or without her, you now have a chance at a fresh start. Use the lessons you've learned from the past to build a meaningful and happy future.
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Do you want to know how to deal with infidelity? There are a lot of ways to deal with this kind of problem and you need to be strong if you want this to be effective.
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