If you are in a relationship, there are always brighter and dark sides of it. It is needless to say that there will be arguments and one has to manage those arguments skillfully so that it does not create any damage to your relationships. People often consider arguments to be counter productive and to create negative environments. However arguments are pretty normal in any kind of relationship. If it is done in the right way it opens up solutions to problems and build new strength of the relationship.
However, knowing how to argue is certainly a skill that most of us could improve upon.
* Some people take fighting very seriously and may be so concerned about winning that they lose sight of what they actually disagree about!
* Some really get their teeth into an argument, loading on more and more ammunition until they either achieve a knock-out or their partner surrenders!
* It is not absolutely necessary to get your teeth in to the argument. One shouldn't forget that arguments are meant to be in a soothing manner and not to hurt each other to a point from where it is very difficult to return.
* Sometimes the arguments are repetitive and couples keep doing it when they are clueless about what to do.
1. Understand what the problem is!
1. Know what the problem is!
2. Stick to the topic!
Keep the content of your arguments relevant. Don't let the conversation drift into different areas of disagreement or old 'bug-bears' - resolving one conflict is hard enough - why tackle even more!
Keep the information of this justifications related. Never let your talk drift in to diverse regions of disagreement or maybe outdated 'bug-bears' - resolving one particular discord is usually tricky ample - the reason why tackle all the more!
3. Don't get personalized!
Do not beat around the bush. be precise and fact based when you are going to argue.
Treat your partner as you want to be treated. Try to remain calm, not raise your voice and generally create an atmosphere of discussion rather than all out war! No name calling, no swearing, no throwing things - just discuss the issue at hand without getting overly emotional - you will have far more chance of a successful discussion this way.
Never get personal with your loved ones negative points and make it look worse.
4. Mutual Respect
Treat your lover or wife as you want to be treated. Try to be in their shoes.
* If you lose, don't sulk.
The above situations could arise from an argument and be ready to face them whatever they may be and face it with open arms. If you both win, feel proud of yourselves for a successful conflict resolution
6. Time out!
6. Time out!
7. Listen
7. Listen
If you can adopt even a few of these tactics we are certain you will see an improvement in how you argue.
If you want to pick up more hints and tips on arguing check out our free communications video course as well as some useful, hand-picked resources specifically on fighting fair.
However, knowing how to argue is certainly a skill that most of us could improve upon.
* Some people take fighting very seriously and may be so concerned about winning that they lose sight of what they actually disagree about!
* Some really get their teeth into an argument, loading on more and more ammunition until they either achieve a knock-out or their partner surrenders!
* It is not absolutely necessary to get your teeth in to the argument. One shouldn't forget that arguments are meant to be in a soothing manner and not to hurt each other to a point from where it is very difficult to return.
* Sometimes the arguments are repetitive and couples keep doing it when they are clueless about what to do.
1. Understand what the problem is!
1. Know what the problem is!
2. Stick to the topic!
Keep the content of your arguments relevant. Don't let the conversation drift into different areas of disagreement or old 'bug-bears' - resolving one conflict is hard enough - why tackle even more!
Keep the information of this justifications related. Never let your talk drift in to diverse regions of disagreement or maybe outdated 'bug-bears' - resolving one particular discord is usually tricky ample - the reason why tackle all the more!
3. Don't get personalized!
Do not beat around the bush. be precise and fact based when you are going to argue.
Treat your partner as you want to be treated. Try to remain calm, not raise your voice and generally create an atmosphere of discussion rather than all out war! No name calling, no swearing, no throwing things - just discuss the issue at hand without getting overly emotional - you will have far more chance of a successful discussion this way.
Never get personal with your loved ones negative points and make it look worse.
4. Mutual Respect
Treat your lover or wife as you want to be treated. Try to be in their shoes.
* If you lose, don't sulk.
The above situations could arise from an argument and be ready to face them whatever they may be and face it with open arms. If you both win, feel proud of yourselves for a successful conflict resolution
6. Time out!
6. Time out!
7. Listen
7. Listen
If you can adopt even a few of these tactics we are certain you will see an improvement in how you argue.
If you want to pick up more hints and tips on arguing check out our free communications video course as well as some useful, hand-picked resources specifically on fighting fair.
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