The tougher circumstances of life today has taken its toll on many marriages. The ups and downs of modern life, along with the high rate of unemployment, have put relationships under strain. If you are concerned for the longevity of your relationship, then something needs to be done as soon as possible. More and more people are finding that marriage counseling is helping to put the pieces back into place.
It is not always the case when both persons agree to go for outside assistance. There could be a number of reasons why someone may be hesitant, even if they know that it could help. When you have to discuss going to a counselor with your spouse, it is best if it is done in a certain way, so that the most beneficial outcome can be achieved.
Choose your moment to bring up the subject carefully. If you or your partner is tired or stressed then it is better to wait. A time when you can both sit down and talk without any interruptions is best. Also, when you are alone is best, as you do not want to bring anyone else into the conversation. Your explanation should be positive, and in a way that will help your spouse to understand that it could improve your relationship.
There can only be two outcomes when you speak to your spouse. Either he or she agrees to come with you, or he or she declines the offer. If your spouse refuses, then you can consider going on your own. You can learn some skills to improve your relationship, and when your partner takes note of this, then he or she may be more willing to participate.
If your partner has agreed to go along with the idea, then you are off to a good start. Although seeing a professional won't guarantee a perfect future, it will certainly not do any damage, and in the process you will learn some good communication skills and learn how to respect the emotions of another person. By writing down some of the goals you hope to achieve by seeing the professional, you can assist the process.
Besides your goals, think of all the things that effect your relationship in a negative way. Make a note of them. Once they are written down, you will be able to see more clearly which things need attention.
Although you are noting the negative aspects, start to work on the positive side of things as well. Write down everything you like about your partner and the relationship, and try to develop a more positive attitude. Both partners should make their own lists, and they can be shared.
Many couples can benefit from marriage counseling, not only those who are thinking of getting a divorce. Couples who have been under strain from substance abuse or the loss of a child can benefit, and just-married couples can enjoy learning some good communications skills. Try to choose a counselor who is professional and who has credentials.
It is not always the case when both persons agree to go for outside assistance. There could be a number of reasons why someone may be hesitant, even if they know that it could help. When you have to discuss going to a counselor with your spouse, it is best if it is done in a certain way, so that the most beneficial outcome can be achieved.
Choose your moment to bring up the subject carefully. If you or your partner is tired or stressed then it is better to wait. A time when you can both sit down and talk without any interruptions is best. Also, when you are alone is best, as you do not want to bring anyone else into the conversation. Your explanation should be positive, and in a way that will help your spouse to understand that it could improve your relationship.
There can only be two outcomes when you speak to your spouse. Either he or she agrees to come with you, or he or she declines the offer. If your spouse refuses, then you can consider going on your own. You can learn some skills to improve your relationship, and when your partner takes note of this, then he or she may be more willing to participate.
If your partner has agreed to go along with the idea, then you are off to a good start. Although seeing a professional won't guarantee a perfect future, it will certainly not do any damage, and in the process you will learn some good communication skills and learn how to respect the emotions of another person. By writing down some of the goals you hope to achieve by seeing the professional, you can assist the process.
Besides your goals, think of all the things that effect your relationship in a negative way. Make a note of them. Once they are written down, you will be able to see more clearly which things need attention.
Although you are noting the negative aspects, start to work on the positive side of things as well. Write down everything you like about your partner and the relationship, and try to develop a more positive attitude. Both partners should make their own lists, and they can be shared.
Many couples can benefit from marriage counseling, not only those who are thinking of getting a divorce. Couples who have been under strain from substance abuse or the loss of a child can benefit, and just-married couples can enjoy learning some good communications skills. Try to choose a counselor who is professional and who has credentials.
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