It's easy to forget just how powerful our subconscious minds can be. We are often completely unaware of how our actions (or inaction) are affecting our lives. We may complain that things never work out for us, we always seem to have bad luck, or we just don't have what it takes to be successful.
Not many people realize that their subconscious self-sabotage is the true reason for their challenges. Why? Well in short, many of us actually create our own problems - and have absolutely no idea we're doing it. So how do you solve something you aren't aware of?
To be able to relieve the problem of self-sabotage it's important to understand the role that fear and emotions play - especially when they are related to our actions. Finding the exact cause of any destructive behavior is the answer to being able to prevent it in the future. So how do you do this? Simple, learn from your failures and don't make the same mistakes twice. Why? Well if you can't identify the cause of the problem then how can you prevent it? But what exactly happens when we self-sabotage?
Many times people simply fail to consistency make an effort towards what they say they want. For example, when we want to lose weight, we start out with an unrealistic level of expectation and excitement and expect very good results in a short period of time. We try different diets and push really hard when doing exercise (if we do any at all!) But guess what happens when the pounds don't melt away on the first day, week or month? Guess when happens when we look in mirror and don't see a supermodel or body of an Adonis looking back? Yep, you guessed it. We give up. We don't work harder. We just throw in the towel instead. But what if this reaction is giving us some kind of excuse for failure? Maybe we say we want to lose weight but really we just want to try, fail and complain. It's easier than dieting and exercising! If you're saying you want to get trim, taut and traffic but you eat junk food and skip exercises then you're sabotaging. Simple as that. But it's easier to make excuses isn't it? Doing the hard work is always unappealing. That's why it's called "hard work!"
Self-sabotage might also occur when we fear what other people will think of our efforts or we fear the results of actually achieving the goal. When you're worried about the consequences of your efforts (even if they are good) we tend to act in ways that will ensure failure. This doesn't mean we're aware we're doing it. Quite the opposite in fact. Self-sabotage means we are blissfully unaware that we are preventing ourselves from succeeding. We trick our mind into thinking that we're doing everything absolutely right. The key is to take some time and think for a minute about how you are behaving? Do you say you want something but do things that are inconsistent with that ambition? Do you say you want to get some work done but do anything else but the work? Do you feel that you just cannot accomplish your goals even if you try as hard as you possibly can? Do you feel you may not be worthy of your goal?
Time for some good news! We can all overcome this self-sabotage mess. The very first thing you need to do is understand when it's happening - easy right? Wrong! But it can be achieved with deep understanding and conscious awareness of your emotions, thoughts and fears. It's about being brutally honest with yourself. It's about holding yourself to the highest account possible. It's about deciding that your goal is more important than letting yourself off the hook time after time.
If you've been struggling with a certain goal and things just don't seem to be working out for you, take a look at the setbacks that were encountered and evaluate the situation. Could any of the obstacles have been avoided by making wiser choices on your part? Are there a significantly high number of obstacles that seem to have arisen for this one particular goal. Ask yourself what you may be afraid of? What fears do you have? What uncertainties? What makes you feel uncomfortable about this goal? For what reasons would you try to hold yourself back? Can you think of anything at all?
When we take some time to understand how our subconscious mind works we can also come to realize that we are in control of our own destiny (successful or not!) With deeper understanding of our actions (and the impact they have) we can stop self-sabotage. And what happens when we become aware of our self-sabotage and can prevent it? Well, anything you want! When you remove the biggest obstacle to success (yourself) anything is possible for you.
Not many people realize that their subconscious self-sabotage is the true reason for their challenges. Why? Well in short, many of us actually create our own problems - and have absolutely no idea we're doing it. So how do you solve something you aren't aware of?
To be able to relieve the problem of self-sabotage it's important to understand the role that fear and emotions play - especially when they are related to our actions. Finding the exact cause of any destructive behavior is the answer to being able to prevent it in the future. So how do you do this? Simple, learn from your failures and don't make the same mistakes twice. Why? Well if you can't identify the cause of the problem then how can you prevent it? But what exactly happens when we self-sabotage?
Many times people simply fail to consistency make an effort towards what they say they want. For example, when we want to lose weight, we start out with an unrealistic level of expectation and excitement and expect very good results in a short period of time. We try different diets and push really hard when doing exercise (if we do any at all!) But guess what happens when the pounds don't melt away on the first day, week or month? Guess when happens when we look in mirror and don't see a supermodel or body of an Adonis looking back? Yep, you guessed it. We give up. We don't work harder. We just throw in the towel instead. But what if this reaction is giving us some kind of excuse for failure? Maybe we say we want to lose weight but really we just want to try, fail and complain. It's easier than dieting and exercising! If you're saying you want to get trim, taut and traffic but you eat junk food and skip exercises then you're sabotaging. Simple as that. But it's easier to make excuses isn't it? Doing the hard work is always unappealing. That's why it's called "hard work!"
Self-sabotage might also occur when we fear what other people will think of our efforts or we fear the results of actually achieving the goal. When you're worried about the consequences of your efforts (even if they are good) we tend to act in ways that will ensure failure. This doesn't mean we're aware we're doing it. Quite the opposite in fact. Self-sabotage means we are blissfully unaware that we are preventing ourselves from succeeding. We trick our mind into thinking that we're doing everything absolutely right. The key is to take some time and think for a minute about how you are behaving? Do you say you want something but do things that are inconsistent with that ambition? Do you say you want to get some work done but do anything else but the work? Do you feel that you just cannot accomplish your goals even if you try as hard as you possibly can? Do you feel you may not be worthy of your goal?
Time for some good news! We can all overcome this self-sabotage mess. The very first thing you need to do is understand when it's happening - easy right? Wrong! But it can be achieved with deep understanding and conscious awareness of your emotions, thoughts and fears. It's about being brutally honest with yourself. It's about holding yourself to the highest account possible. It's about deciding that your goal is more important than letting yourself off the hook time after time.
If you've been struggling with a certain goal and things just don't seem to be working out for you, take a look at the setbacks that were encountered and evaluate the situation. Could any of the obstacles have been avoided by making wiser choices on your part? Are there a significantly high number of obstacles that seem to have arisen for this one particular goal. Ask yourself what you may be afraid of? What fears do you have? What uncertainties? What makes you feel uncomfortable about this goal? For what reasons would you try to hold yourself back? Can you think of anything at all?
When we take some time to understand how our subconscious mind works we can also come to realize that we are in control of our own destiny (successful or not!) With deeper understanding of our actions (and the impact they have) we can stop self-sabotage. And what happens when we become aware of our self-sabotage and can prevent it? Well, anything you want! When you remove the biggest obstacle to success (yourself) anything is possible for you.
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